Dating an older divorced man with children
I believe that marriage teaches men responsibility, structure, how to co-define reality, what women want and how to put someone else before themselves.I have giggled to myself and so very much appreciated the little things that divorced men I have dated have done for me.They have taken out my garbage, carried my luggage, taken my car for an oil change, cooked me dinner, talked about my day at work and brought me breakfast in bed.I have found that men who have been married are a bit more structured and familiar with the little things.Naturally, as we grow fabulously older, women are going to meet many more divorced men than we did in our 20s.Although there are still stigmas surrounding dating divorced men, here are a few reasons you just might have a delightful experience: Men are, by nature, fixers and problem solvers.If you are dating someone who hasn’t been around kids much, they might not enjoy it. Or, he might fall madly in love with your kids and realize they want more. Or, maybe he committed (got engaged) and then the girl broke it off. All I’m saying is, the divorced guy proved he had the ability and the willingness to complete and utter monogamy (Then again, he could have been a huge cheater in the marriage.) Plus, maybe he never wants to commit again. The guy who never made that commitment in the first place doesn’t really get it (the commitment, I mean.) Not that that’s a bad thing. Everyone has a different story, and a reason why he ended up divorced or never married. I wish they had a checkbox for the things that really mean the most, like, “Are you going to love me unconditionally? ” and “Will you always cause my heart to beat fast when you walk into a room?
Ladies, as much as we love men (and, I really do), we want to acknowledge that they can often mature, grow up and find their way in a relationship a bit more slowly than women do.By putting more pressure on him, I pushed him away.To avoid adding pressure, make sure that you know that you are both on the same path.___A woman who goes by the name “Lucky” responded to one of my Single Dad Wants posts with a moving and impassioned comment that’s too long to reprint here (scroll down for it). Your man, your divorced dad, is lucky to have someone so understanding.As I was writing my response, I realized I was writing my next post about relationships. And while I only have limited experience with being on the dad’s side, I do have a little knowledge of what you speak.
Whether repairing the kitchen table or planning a romantic evening, the male ego and inner child have a strong need and desire to get it right and succeed.